8 tips for the holidays
1. Start a morning ritual of self-care
You want to set yourself on a healthy trajectory heading into the holidays by practicing a morning self-care ritual leading up to your family gathering. What you decide to integrate into your routine depends on what works best for you, but what’s important is that you commit to doing it every morning. Some common examples include yoga, meditation, journaling, and gratitude practices.
2. Nourish your body leading up to the holidays
You may feel compelled to restrict your calories leading up to a big holiday feast, but dieting before a large meal can lead to dysregulation and disordered eating behaviors, such as binging. In preparation for the holidays, try working towards staying mindful, self-aware and committed to good self care. Provide yourself with nourishing meals and consistently stick to your normal eating routine whenever possible so you may navigate this possibly triggering situation.
3. Create a support plan
One way to help you thrive during the holidays is to establish a support plan for when you are triggered. This plan may include coping strategies like reaching out to supportive people or your therapist, reaching out to a virtual care team, practicing positive self-talk, or engaging in healthy distractions like reading or listening to music.
4. Have an exit plan in place
Creating an exit plan may be beneficial to your self-care practice. The holidays can be extremely overwhelming, and sometimes you may need to take a break to re-focus or gather yourself. Ask your family where the holiday meal and celebrations will take place so you can figure out a calm location to go to ahead of time in the event the situation becomes unhealthy.
5. Seek support from your recovery community
Being around loved ones who may not understand your struggles can be an isolating experience. Leading up to and during the holidays, it’s important to seek support from trusted members of your recovery community. They’re there to lift you up, validate your feelings, and listen with a nonjudgmental ear. Let your family know that you are focused on your self care through the holidays and that this may mean at times placing self-care above social expectations.
6. Approach every meal with mindfulness and pleasure
While a surviving mentality may involve figuring out how to get through a meal, a thriving mindset empowers you to approach every meal with pleasure and mindfulness. Nourishing your body should be a joyful experience. And prioritizing mindful eating means you are present and grounded in the moment without judgment before, during, or after eating. This can greatly reduce stress related to complex eating situations, as well as promote gratitude and feelings of well-being.
7. Practice self-compassion and radical self-acceptance
Eating disorder recovery is not a straight-forward path—there are often ups and downs and bumps in the road. If you slip up and return to disordered eating, respond with kindness, forgiveness, and a nonjudgmental attitude. This is known as self-compassion, and it can alleviate the shame and guilt you may feel related to eating disorder behaviors. Similarly, radical self-acceptance allows you to accept your reality, including your struggles.
8. Focus on what leads to fulfillment
Although food is a large component of most, if not all holidays, it doesn’t have to be your only center point. If cooking is not your thing, you may want to find opportunities to help with other tasks, such as running errands, decorating, taking care of children, or anything else that brings you joy.
Of course, food is what brings everyone to the table, and embracing the joy and pleasure of meals can be a part of a holiday experience, but we also want to remind ourselves that holidays are also about connecting with loved ones, for some people spiritual or religious meaning, and (hopefully) also taking a break now and then. So try to focus on what the holidays are really about: connecting with your loved ones.
A mentality of thriving instead of surviving
Much of the language associated with eating disorder recovery is centered around the concept of surviving triggering situations, such as the holidays. And while this language is not only valid but oftentimes, accurate, considering the life-threatening nature of eating disorders, it’s time to change the recovery narrative to one of thriving.
To thrive during eating disorder recovery means to grow and flourish, to learn how to be proactive in how you protect and arm yourself. Thriving means preparing for potential stressors and triggers as opposed to simply reacting to them when they arise. If you are always reacting to various negative emotions or situations that arise, it can feel like you’re scrambling to keep up. But when you take a proactive stance and make a self-care plan, you are choosing yourself. And what could be more empowering than that?
Within Health has revolutionized eating disorder treatment by creating a virtual program where you can connect with your clinical care team from home, or on the go. Our app gives people the flexibility to receive care wherever they need it, including when they are home for the holidays. If you are looking for compassionate care for disordered eating, call our clinical care team to find out how to get started.