Warning signs of anorexia in teens
The first step toward understanding teenagers with anorexia nervosa is learning what the disorder looks like in this population. Some early signs of anorexia in teenagers include:1,2
- Perfectionism: This could manifest as a focus on physical appearance or an obsession with getting good grades, among other expressions.
- Low self-esteem: This is often accompanied by comments on looking fat, a negative comparison of oneself to others, or frequent checking in the mirror.
- Fear of eating in front of others: Manifesting as eating alone or avoiding meals with others.
- Attempts to lose weight: This can include excessive exercise, fasting, or skipping meals. In some cases, someone may experience a binge eating episode after struggling to not eat for long periods of time.
- Eating rituals: Unusual behaviors involving food or eating may include not allowing certain foods on the plate to touch the plate or cutting food into tiny pieces before eating.
It's also common for those struggling with AN to wear loose clothing to hide the shape of their body. As a restrictive food intake disorder, the primary characteristic of anorexia nervosa is limiting food intake in any form. In a teenager, this could look like fights around dinner or refusals to eat what was made for them. They could find excuses to not eat meal, like making plans with friends or studying.
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Anorexia in teens: Causes
There is no one cause of anorexia nervosa in teenagers or anyone else who struggles with the condition. AN is a complex disorder developed from biological, psychological, and environmental factors.
Some common risk factors for those with anorexia nervosa include:3
- A family history of anxiety, eating disorders, or other mental health concerns
- Genetic tendencies toward perfectionism, sensitivity, and perseverance
- Obsessive-compulsive personality traits
- High levels of anxiety
- Peer pressure to be "thin" or achieve an "ideal" body
Still, puberty is considered a particularly vulnerable time for eating disorder development, as the hormonal changes, psychological development, and social atmosphere impacting people in this age range can contribute to the onset of disordered eating symptoms.4
Anorexia in teens: Myths vs. facts
Anorexia nervosa is a common eating disorder, but it's still misunderstood by many.
Some people believe that AN only impacts young, white females, but the reality is that anorexia nervosa can affect anyone, regardless of their age, race, or gender.
AN also impacts people of all body types. People can have a normal body weight or a higher body weight and still struggle with anorexia nervosa. This is sometimes called atypical anorexia nervosa, and, as most people associate AN only with underweight individuals, it's often overlooked.
Another common myth is that anorexia is a choice or that anorexia nervosa symptoms in teenagers are "just a phase." AN is a serious mental health disorder, and signs of this eating behavior are a good indication that someone needs help.
How to help teenagers with anorexia
Learning more about the early signs of anorexia in a teenager can help you understand what they're going through mentally, physically, and emotionally. This can be an excellent way to build empathy and compassion, which are both important when supporting someone through treatment and recovery.
But if your child, friend, or loved one is struggling with anorexia nervosa, there are other ways you can help.
Open up communication
Communication is an important aspect of helping someone, particularly teenagers with anorexia who may be frightened, lonely, and otherwise unable to help themselves.
Still, even regular conversations with a teenager can be tricky, let alone conversations about teens and anorexia. Before you approach them, it is helpful to form a general plan for how you want to
address the conversation. Think about what you want to say and what you hope to accomplish by speaking with them.
Especially if this is the first time you’re speaking to your child about the issue, you may want to open with an “I” statement, such as, “I feel concerned with your relationship with food. I’d appreciate it if we could schedule a time to talk about it.”
Keep an open mind
It’s also important to keep an open mind during this, or any, conversation with a teenager who has AN. Use what you’ve learned about anorexia nervosa in teens to ask questions and really listen to their answers.
Good places to start include, “How long have you been feeling this way?” or “How are you feeling?” It is also helpful to think through potential questions you want to ask.
It’s important to remember that your child might not understand the full depth of why they're feeling or behaving this way. When speaking with them, try to keep this in mind and cultivate as much compassion as you can. Let them know you're a safe person to confide in.
Avoid lecturing and passing judgment
Many parents fall into the trap of lecturing their children on the dangers of eating disorders or emphasizing their concerns rather than letting their children speak from their perspective. This can result in someone shutting down or reacting defensively.
If you can, try to stay mindful about the words you’re using or the topics you’re focusing on, and refrain from making judgmental or accusatory statements. Something like, “You’re not eating enough,” may come from a genuine place of concern, but to a teenager with anorexia, it might sound aggressive and be a reason to shut down communications.
As hard as it may be to hear, it's important to allow the person to openly and honestly express themselves. Building rapport with your child so that they feel comfortable expressing themselves around you or even knowing they can talk to you if needed is a paramount part of the recovery journey.
Always do your best to come from a place of love and support rather than harsh judgment.
Be ready to help
Finding help for a child can be a tricky, complex prospect. But if you are the child's parent or legal guardian, you have the right to make medical decisions on their behalf. This can generally include enrollment in eating disorder treatment programs.
It's important to consider the child's wishes. You should discuss treatment options with them to give them an idea of what will happen or get their opinion on certain programs, therapies, or doctors. But ultimately, the decision will be up to you.
Do your research on physicians, programs in the area, or
virtual programs that can help. Contact your insurance company—or any programs you may be interested in—to understand what and how much will be covered or how much you can expect to pay for treatment. Look into treatment length and how different treatment options may work with the school. Do your best to be prepared for yourself and your child.
Focus on gathering information and presenting those findings to the professionals. Avoid drawing conclusions or trying to decide what your teen needs. Leave that to the experts.
Finding help for a teenager with anorexia
When it comes to anorexia in teens, it's crucial that they receive appropriate treatment. AN can lead to serious physical and mental health consequences, but early intervention has been connected with less severe symptoms and a shorter duration of illness.5
The first step toward treatment is getting a complete and thorough evaluation from a medical or mental health expert. Receiving a diagnosis of anorexia nervosa will allow you to enroll them in various eating disorder treatment programs or receive insurance coverage for their care.
Still, even after your child receives the help they need, it’s important to be there for them. Recovery is rarely a straightforward journey, and there will likely be setbacks and even relapses. When these things happen, it's important to keep the faith, focus on the progress made, and continue supporting your loved one along their journey.
The most important thing to remember is that recovery is indeed possible and that your support and encouragement can make a huge difference in the life of a teenager with anorexia.